A couple of weeks ago when I was recommending people to check out the Meet Him & Marry Him online masterclass, somebody sent me this excellent question by email:  

“How do I know if I’ve really met The One?”   

Here’s my response.   

Step#1. Pray for the optimal spouse.  

One of the big teachings in both the “Meet & Marry The One” program and the “Meet Him & Marry Him” program (both are included in The Ocean), is to pray sincerely from your heart to Allah, to marry you to the optimal spouse for you and the person for whom you are the optimal spouse.  

This does several things:  

  1. Allah’s the only One who can do the calculation out of the billions of people on earth to figure out who your optimal match is. 
     
  2. Because Allah answers prayers, it makes it almost a certainty that you will actually meet and marry The One. (In accordance with Divine Timing – not your ego’s timing). 
     
  3. It opens your heart up so that it becomes much more likely that you’ll recognize the one if you meet them and won’t dump them on the basis of not liking the pattern on their socks or something… 
     
  4. Allah, the All-Hearing, answers prayers – so be careful what you pray for. A lot of people pray ‘to get married’. As someone who’s been divorced… I don’t recommend that. I recommend praying to get married to the optimal spouse on planet Earth for you. It’s a much better outcome and  just as easy for Allah to do 😉  

However, praying alone doesn’t necessarily let you know.  

Step #2: Assume everyone you meet is The One until they prove otherwise.  

This is where some people go wrong. They have such high expectations of The One that they aren’t open to being surprised by somebody they may not have expected. 

By assuming everyone is The One, you give everyone a fair chance until they prove otherwise, which of course will likely happen very frequently. 

Probably every week or month, you’ll realize that somebody you were talking to is not The One.  

This gives you the freedom to move on to the next potential, knowing that you don’t need to settle and you don’t need to lower your standards.  

How could somebody prove they’re not the one?  

The most obvious way is by mistreating you or by showing you that their values do not align with yours.  

There are many other ways, but it’s covered in detail in the Meet and Marry The One program.  

Step #3. Be Eternally Grateful When Someone Proves That They Are The One 

After seeing several people and ruling them out sooner or later you’re going to end up with somebody who you don’t rule out and who time and time again, continues to prove to you that they may well be ‘The One’.  

And when it gets to a certain point, if your values align and you go through the compatibility assessment and all of the other things that are taught in the “Meet and Marry The One” and “Meet Him and Marry Him” programs, eventually God-willing, you’ll get married.  

And it’s highly likely at this point that you will be married to ‘The One’.  

This sets you up for success in ways most people don’t realize. You will end up having a way better relationship because as things get more serious, you’ll know you’re not just married to ‘someone’. You’re married to the person you believe is the best possible spouse for you. You believe your prayers were answered and get to wake up each day next to the one you prayed for.  

That enriches your relationship, makes you value it more, and leads to you being eternally grateful for having them in your life – instead of constantly looking around at who else you might have been with.  

To get specific advice on how to implement all of this, get your love life on track and actually Meet & Marry your ideal spouse, check out the relationship programs available in “The Ocean” here:  

www.mamoonyusaf.com/ocean